Hello and welcome to The Untangling, a haven for you to untangle identity, trauma, and broken narratives.
This is where we question beliefs—cultural, social, religious, familial—and why we believe them.
Fundamentalist Christianity, traditional East Asian values, mental and chronic illness, and experiencing all kinds of trauma shaped who I grew up to be.
I have spent over the last decade untangling who I was told to be from who I truly am. Perhaps you are searching for freedom, too.
You will not find single-dimensional viewpoints here. If that’s what you are looking for, this is not the publication for you. I am not one thing, and often anger everyone by questioning both/all sides.
However, you are very welcome here, even if we disagree!!
I am making space for us to question, discuss, unwind, and rewind those tangled parts of our souls, together.
This is for you.

My mother’s worn Bible
What happens when the Bible becomes a source of pain? A vulnerable essay on reconstructing faith after deconstruction—with surprising hope.

Yes, in spite of everything
An honest reflection on walking away from God, living with uncertainty, and returning to faith 'kicking and screaming.

How fundamentalism nearly destroyed my relationship with God
How fundamentalist Christianity's impossible standards and fear-based control led to my departure from faith, and why deconstruction is only the beginning

I Followed Jesus But My Life Didn't Get Better
Through cancer, abuse, and the loss of children, a believer finds God's goodness beyond the promise of easy answers.