**Hello and welcome to The Untangling, a haven for you to untangle identity, trauma, and broken narratives.**

This is where we question beliefs—cultural, social, religious, familial—and why we believe them.

Fundamentalist Christianity, traditional East Asian values, mental and chronic illness, and experiencing all kinds of trauma shaped who I grew up to be.

I have spent over the last decade untangling who I was told to be from who I truly am. Perhaps you are searching for freedom, too.

You will not find single-dimensional viewpoints here. If that’s what you are looking for, this is not the publication for you. I am not one thing, and often anger everyone by questioning both/all sides.

However, you are very welcome here, even if we disagree!!

I am making space for us to question, discuss, unwind, and rewind those tangled parts of our souls, together.

This is for you.

Tiffany Chu 9/6/25 Tiffany Chu 9/6/25

“Have you eaten?”

As my 97-year-old grandmother enters hospice, I reflect on a lifetime of love expressed through food—the true Asian love language.

Tiffany Chu 7/9/25 Tiffany Chu 7/9/25

My mother’s worn Bible

What happens when the Bible becomes a source of pain? A vulnerable essay on reconstructing faith after deconstruction—with surprising hope.

Tiffany Chu 6/25/25 Tiffany Chu 6/25/25

Yes, in spite of everything

An honest reflection on walking away from God, living with uncertainty, and returning to faith 'kicking and screaming.

Tiffany Chu 6/9/25 Tiffany Chu 6/9/25

How fundamentalism nearly destroyed my relationship with God

How fundamentalist Christianity's impossible standards and fear-based control led to my departure from faith, and why deconstruction is only the beginning

Tiffany Chu 5/19/25 Tiffany Chu 5/19/25

Writing from the Fellowship | Reader links roundup #2

Tiffany Chu 5/12/25 Tiffany Chu 5/12/25

This is the fourth year since your son died

An exploration of parental grief four years after loss, where unexpected moments still shatter the fragile normalcy of moving forward.

Tiffany Chu 5/5/25 Tiffany Chu 5/5/25

Writing from the Fellowship | Reader links roundup #1

Tiffany Chu 3/3/25 Tiffany Chu 3/3/25

Letters to the Forgotten Ones I Still Love

A raw essay chronicling five devastating losses: 4 miscarriages and the death of an adopted son - exploring grief, love, and the weight of remembering those who existed briefly