Hello and welcome to The Untangling, a haven for you to untangle identity, trauma, and broken narratives.
This is where we question beliefs—cultural, social, religious, familial—and why we believe them.
Fundamentalist Christianity, traditional East Asian values, mental and chronic illness, and experiencing all kinds of trauma shaped who I grew up to be.
I have spent over the last decade untangling who I was told to be from who I truly am. Perhaps you are searching for freedom, too.
You will not find single-dimensional viewpoints here. If that’s what you are looking for, this is not the publication for you. I am not one thing, and often anger everyone by questioning both/all sides.
However, you are very welcome here, even if we disagree!!
I am making space for us to question, discuss, unwind, and rewind those tangled parts of our souls, together.
This is for you.

“Have you eaten?”
As my 97-year-old grandmother enters hospice, I reflect on a lifetime of love expressed through food—the true Asian love language.

"I have searched for my mother’s love in all corners of the world." -Annie Ernaux
A meditation on childhood trauma, immigrant parent dynamics, and the long journey to accepting a mother's apology.

Tracing Your Shadow through Shifting Leaves
Chronicling my father's recurring cancer battles in 7 powerful drabbles. Follow my emotional journey from childhood to adulthood as I grapple with love and uncertainty.

To Be Loved Completely
A raw, honest essay about overcoming toxic shame from childhood trauma and a harmful relationship to find unconditional love and self-acceptance.