Hello and welcome to The Untangling, a haven for you to untangle identity, trauma, and broken narratives.
This is where we question beliefs—cultural, social, religious, familial—and why we believe them.
Fundamentalist Christianity, traditional East Asian values, mental and chronic illness, and experiencing all kinds of trauma shaped who I grew up to be.
I have spent over the last decade untangling who I was told to be from who I truly am. Perhaps you are searching for freedom, too.
You will not find single-dimensional viewpoints here. If that’s what you are looking for, this is not the publication for you. I am not one thing, and often anger everyone by questioning both/all sides.
However, you are very welcome here, even if we disagree!!
I am making space for us to question, discuss, unwind, and rewind those tangled parts of our souls, together.
This is for you.
To Be Loved Completely
A raw, honest essay about overcoming toxic shame from childhood trauma and a harmful relationship to find unconditional love and self-acceptance.
The Trap of Instagram and Social Media
Author shares honest thoughts on leaving Instagram's toxic culture for Substack. Escape social media overwhelm and find your creative voice.
Learning to Ask for Help
A powerful story about overcoming isolation and learning to ask for help. How vulnerability, community, and faith transformed one family's crisis.
Reconciling Workaholism with Chronic Illness
Chronic illness and the urge to do more, more, and more
The Case for Slow Reading
Discover why switching from speed reading to slow reading transformed my book experience. Learn the benefits of savoring books vs consuming them quickly.
Making a Home for Grief
A mother's raw journey through child loss reveals why grief doesn't heal—it evolves. Learn how accepting grief's permanence becomes the path forward.
Lighthouse
A poetic exploration of love, sacrifice, and devotion through the metaphor of drowning seas and shifting sands. Sometimes we dive deeper to save others.
